Taking Care

in this day and age the concept of "taking care" of your friend obselete. everyone so caught up in the rat race that they take whatever comes their way especially when there is nothing worth gaining from going that extra mile except the person's goodwill.

i miss hanging out with ah bengs, mainly because of their willingness to go out of the way for their friends. their comaradrie, in other words, "yi qi" and brotherhood. many people i know will just laugh and shrug it off when talking about them and i've done so myself but it's exactly this kind of friendship that keeps them together.

too many people take it for granted. when you go out of your way to help them it's nice and when you do not, it's only normal. i can make the effort to fetch you back and forth only to have you play me out when we're in a foreign land. granted, it's no big deal that no accomodation was booked for me. but still.

i save a seat for you in class etc etc and one day i stroll into class and you're sitting with another group. granted again no big deal. but still.

i lent you $400 bucks at your request and only got back the principle after 4 months and then in small denominations and i coughed up another $100 the week after you paid me back only to get rejected when i wanted to borrow $100. no big deal. but still.

if i take care of my friends then who takes care of me.